Why do I compare my life with others? Why am I always unsatisfied with my life? Why does watching others’ social media make me feel like I want their lives and that I am not content with mine?

You have the impression that they are having more joyful moments than you, despite the fact that you may be out and about, but not fully present in the moment. Someone, for example, has just booked a trip to the Maldives, while you’re already at the beach planning your own summer vacation. You believe they are advancing in their careers, despite the fact that you have only recently been promoted. Alternatively, you may want a fancy gift from a loved one, but they are instead devoting their time to you. 

Constant comparisons can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and a desire for someone else’s life. These comparisons can have a significant impact on your overall happiness. 

In the sections that follow, we will look at the reasons for these comparisons and offer alternative approaches to improving your well-being.

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1- The social comparison : 

The Social Comparison Theory of psychologist Leon Festinger states that: people assess their own worth by comparing themselves to others. Comparing our lives to others who seem to be in better situations, or have accomplished more can be damaging to our self-esteem and general well-being. The desire to compare increases on social media platforms, where users frequently only highlight their best experiences.

2- The Perception Gap:

There is a disconnect between our perceptions of other people’s lives and what they actually go through, according to studies. We have a propensity to emphasize the good things in other people’s lives while disregarding their struggles and difficulties. Because of this perception contradiction, we constantly feel unsatisfied with our lives and hold them up to an unreal standard.

3- Fear of Missing Out (FOMO):

A significant social phenomenon that adds to our unhappiness is FOMO. Constantly hearing about and experiencing other people’s lives, can make us feel as though we are missing out on something better or more satisfying. Our desire for other people’s lives becomes greater as a result of this fear, making it difficult to be content in our own lives.

4- Social comparisons that are idealized:

People are more likely to compare themselves to those who are perceived to have a higher social or economic status, according to psychological studies. We often form idealized comparisons to those we admire or consider as successful. Comparing ourselves to people like this can make us feel unworthy and make us yearn over their lives.

After going over the reasons why we compare our lives to those of others, let’s focus on practical ways for dealing with these thoughts when they come up:

1- Increase expressing gratitude:

Realize the effect of gratitude and how it may change your perception of things. Think about keeping a gratitude journal where you can list the things you are thankful for every day. Your perspective will be guided and you’ll be more satisfied if you concentrate on the good things in your own life and practice gratitude.

2- Self-compassion:

Accept self-compassion and begin to value yourself. Compare your development to your previous self instead of comparing yourself to others, and take pride in how far you have come in your life. Accept your unique journey as it will help you develop a greater sense of joy and purpose, which will inspire you to develop in your own special and meaningful way.

In light of everything I’ve said, I want to emphasize that comparing our lives to those of others is a natural human tendency, especially in our technologically connected world. On the other hand, being aware of the relevant factors can make it easier for us to make these comparisons. If you want to know more about how to incorporate in your life, book your session here

Finally, you will find the light within you when you make the decision to focus inward, toward your inner self and personal journey. Keep in mind that you exist and the reason you are here are extremely valuable and deserving of admiration.

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